As we start our third night of what the hospice nurses call his body "actively dying," I'm trying to find comfort in the outpouring of support from our friends. Comfort in having Dede and Beth and Jordan by our side. Comfort in the many glimpses of memories that flash across his iPad screen. But for some reason, all they do is make me cry. Not a very comfortable emotional state.
Comfort is found in the ordinary. This is anything but. So I've put the Hello, Dolly DVD into the laptop, and I'm singing along -- just like BR and I have done with friends so many times before.
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My heart goes out to you. You are living through what I fear most, and one day I will face.
It is so quick for you. It is so unfair. Memories are all we have in the end. I am sure his light will never die in the hearts of those lucky enough to know BR.
Lots of love
Richie
May you find joy in those memories and peace in your heart.
I remember watching "Hello Dolly" with BR in the days before DVD's. He fast forwarded through the tape to get to the parts he liked. :)
Terri
May your memories bring you moments of comfort and peace. My heart aches for all you and BR are going through. What an amazing spirit we have all been blessed with to have BR in our lives. Praying for you Steve and the ache and pain your heart is suffering.
All our love,
Meredith and Andrew
I'm crying with you. Please give BR a kiss from me.
Sending you the FIERCEST hug allowed. And all the love that comes with it.
Sharon
I'm thinking about all of you and am so sorry! Hard to believe Bob was just here and having fun with everybody!
Sister Yarbrough
Belcher friend!
oh hell.i havent been reading blogs so i didnt know.im so sorry.all i can say.mort
Hi Steve,
Thinking about you and BobRobert.
Heartbroken that he is going so soon.
Was hoping to win the lottery and visit you both in Texas.
Hope you have plenty of love and support around you.
A huge hug.
Love,
Herrad
Steve - so very sad for both of you. I am glad you have people with you to share this with, it would be too much to bear alone.
Just caught up on your blog. I am so sorry to hear. You guys are in our thoughts.
Scott and Kara
Words fail me as I try to make sense of all this. I am so very saddened to hear of BR declining condition. All I have are the memories that we shared when we were fortunate enough to re-connect in SF. It was very short-lived but it seems like a lifetime when I think back on the good times and also when I think of BR big beautiful smile that has landed a lasting impression in my life. I will continue to send good thoughts and prayers your way. Much Love, Scott
My heart aches and the tears just want stop. I will always remember the good times with Bobrobert. We had a hillarious time with students, parents and employees. I never forget laughs, bad words, and tantrum attacks(that was fun). Steve he always told me how wonderful you are too him and how much he loves you. Just remember all the times you shared, his smile, sense of humor(even when he was been a butt), but most of all the joy you all brought to each other and I promise you will feel the ease of pain. I love you both and he will always be my butterfly.
Love,
Andrea
Steve, there's one more song BR really liked...Barbra's version of "Somewhere"...he might like that right now.
Susanne
So very, very sad. I'm so sorry for you. Many prayers for you both!
Peace,
Muff
Hello from NYC. The lovely Herrad directed me to your blog. Thinking of you both today!
Hello Steve:
My heart goes out to you in this trying time. I think there is comfort in knowing that you were both everything to one another and that your life has been changed forever just for knowing BobRobert.
I am thankful that you have this end time to say goodbye and that you have loved ones around you.
Love,
Anne
Good to know your friends have gathered with you.
Yesterday KRP and I did the MS walk and with heavy heart I used a big black felt tip marker and we filled in the I walk for: section with BobRobert - your sharing has touched me and although I never had the pleasure of meeting either of you it just felt right.
You both are in our prayers
There are so many of us who would comfort you if we could. Lots of love,
Kim
I hope you can find comfort in your great memories. Saying some prayers for you and BR.
Steve, so very sorry to hear about BobRobert, wish words were enough to make it better for you both. You both are in our hearts and prayers.
Andy
Steve BobRobert
i am with you forever
all my love and heart and soul
gina
I feel like I know you through Herrad's posts. I wish you both the peace that the freedom from pain can bring. It is sad and wondrous, and beautiful you have had love so deep. Lean on your friends so dear. Peace and Love,Mary
A blog friend, Herrad, stopped by. He knew that my prayers would indeed be heartfelt and so they are for each breath, each ebb and flow, to bring a fullness of comfort, to bring the knowing of love from all. Know that a stranger reaches out and cares.
Blessings,
Rose Marie
Please find comfort and strength knowing you are in the thoughts and prayers of so many.
I wish I knew just what to say to make things better. Sometimes words just aren't enough. Life can e so hard sometimes...May you be comforted by the many warm thoughts of those who care.
Blinders
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO
I have not read your blog before, but am struck by how many have encouraged others to stop and show their support to you in a challenging time. You must be two very special persons to generate such an outpouring of love. May you both bathe in the love being offered you.
Judy
Sending love and prayers your way,
Steph
I'm so sorry for you. Many prayers for you both!
So sorry you are both going through this. Thank heavens you are there for him.
Blessings on you both.
Herrad told me about you both and I'm here to say that my heart goes out to you and your beloved BR. I send my love across that sky we all share no matter how far away we may be from one another. xx
Keeping you and yours in my thoughts and prayers. This is so unfair. I am so sorry.
Erin
i'm trying to figure out what to say....
I don't know...
Hope you find strength.
Love,
Ana
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