Showing posts with label philosophy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label philosophy. Show all posts

Monday, May 25, 2009

A Memorial Day Prayer

When BR and I lived in San Francisco, I would drive past the Golden Gate National Cemetery on my way to work. Each day I would take note of the large American flag flying near the intersection of interstates 280 and 380. A flag at half staff meant that another soldier had lost his life, most likely in Iraq. Another family shattered. There were months when I never saw the flag reach full staff.

As I passed the cemetery, I would say a brief prayer of thanks to the brave people who make up our volunteer armed forces, and to the families who support them. And most of all, I would pray that our leaders would understand what a great gift a strong military force is -- to be used sparingly in the preservation of our country and its citizens.

There is a lot of evil in this world, much taking the form of people with power operating under selfish motivations. My sincerest hope this Memorial Day is that every US citizen can honor those we have lost to war by upholding the highest of ideals that this country represents. To excel at charity and the humanities, as well as enterprise and sport. To find time to impart expertise, and to learn from experts. And to listen -- really listen -- to the messages that the planet and its people so desperately want us to hear.

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

The dangers of comparison living

Always appear to be someone better
You know there will always appear to be someone worse


From Equality by Howard Jones
It's often tempting, when times get tough, to take a look around and take comfort in the fact that my life could be much worse. In the face of BR's progressive MS, I even find myself making comparisons to "future me", as in "someday in the future, I will be longing for today."

The comfort that downward comparison living provides is temporary at best, and can lead me on a downward spiral if I'm not careful. I end up setting a standard of living that is minimally above where I don't want to be, instead of achieving the life I was put here to live.

Upward comparison living is just a dangerous. I tell myself that I am looking up to others to set goals for improving my life, but I really end up feeling discontent for the life I have over things I don't need. I've seen friends over-extend themselves financially just to "keep up with the Jones".

So I try to catch myself when I start in with these thoughts, remind myself of all the good stuff I've yet to achieve, and get on with my life.
Everyone has got their character
Everyone has got their personality
But the longing is still the same
So what is the answer? Be easy on yourself
Make yourself feel at ease. Maybe that's the answer